say hello again in 2014

Watchhaaaooo...it has been ages that I've never post in this blog again. Hmmhhh...it is really hard to be and living in adulthood, its very complex and complicated. Anyway, we could not go back where we are, we have to move on and do cha..cha..cha to your feet and put the soothe music to your heart! Keep the rhythm on going on your brain, it will save your heart of being attack and your body of being pain. I know, it is very easy to say hard to do. But hey, what should we do if you live in this stressful field. We could not keep on depressed all the time. Yesterday, August 13th, 2014, Actor Robyn Williams, the greatest actor in this universe, common suicide. Whatttt??? Yep, he had a good career, good family, don't have money problems, a little bit sickness but not that bad. Still not happy with life. Because taking so much pills and medicine probably. I do not know. As an outsider I just assume that he tried to make everybody happy and laugh but could not do to your self. RIP Robyn willims. Prrriitttt...stop talking about other people. Let's continue dance....da..da..da..da

Why Worried?

Every single time there is no way that we didn't live with no worries. We are always worrying about something that sometimes not need to be worried of.

Living in these days life which are full of tension, tension of economy, tension of aging, tension of relationship,everything!!! No more take it easy life especially for young people. They tried to get more than they can afford. All these matter is based on comparing to other people lifes. Why would we do that? In some point socialize is really good but the rest are tiresome. We tried not to admit that we compare our life to others but trust me it is. Do you want some simple example?

Ok, in the work place, if your co-worker got more hours these week, then you will ask yourself that what's wrong with me, why I didn't get hours the same as other? Then we got worried then the tension then prejudice about everything. And the worse thing happen just because of this small things you become discourage and then bad mood etc...which is make your performance getting worse and worst. That's only a small example.

So,why worried? What should we do?

The answer is: stop worried, because you can do everything and always the best, by stopping comparing your life with others. Each person has their own happiness.

Expressing your love to God.

This is really an extreme title because some people who doesn't in the same ways with ours will say," you are ridiculous."

If we take a look real close, how many of us can show our love feeling to God? We do express our love feeling to other people many times, but why not to God? We have so many denominations, so many religions and beliefs in this world to get happiness in life. We cannot judge which one the better or worse.

Hey...
What is the connection between religion or expressing your love with happiness?

The simple answer of that question is if you fall in love with somebody don't you feel happy?

That is falling in love with people, so can you imagine if every single time you fall in love with God and express it by listening what God's say in many ways. And please, do not stuck with the thought of variety of religions, beliefs, or sciences. It will make you stay in the place within argue for nothing. You will start to claim that yours is the best one. I believe that is not what God wants in the diversity that He created.

Just feel it (as you know we can not describe what is love) because it's dealing with feelings.

Well, let us start to express God's love in our life and feel it. Do not search it, because I believe He will give you abundance of happiness if you ask for it.

Does happiness an impossible thing?

Everyday, how often do you hear around about complaining, whinning, protesting and many other unsatisying? But don't you think that is not many people said about how happy they are, how lucky they are, how grateful they are? Nope..wait a minute, don't get upset, I am saying this in global. How many times when you ask somebody, how are you? And they said: "hang in there" instead of fantastic!

Be honest! We struggled of judging ourselves by not satisfied. Why is that? Is being satisfied something hard to do equal with happiness?

Satisfying is the expression of not getting what we expect. After we don't get what we expect then we try comparing with others, and next we begin to complain, after that we whine, last but not least we feel awful of ourselves and claimed that we are the most suffered person in this world.

It is really hard to stop doing that especially if we deal with "the turbulence of our life."

As a matter of fact, the motivation to fulfill your satisfaction is shift the state of mind to be a sanguine(optimistic) and stop judging yourselves. All of us know that this is not an easy way to do. But, we have got to do what we got to do. Learn and train. Learn to be optimist and train doing that, also stop judging yourself. Do this action every single time until you get used to it.

I suggest the best thing you can do for the first time is do the best of whatever you deal with now, and do not be bothered or compare with others. Because something good for others will not guarantee that it will good for you. Keep doing that all the time and focused.

If you already get use to this track, the next step is being optimist that the result is always the best and it needs process to come that far. Failure doesn't mean that you are a looser, failure means you are in the process of being "ripe". Keep trying and doing and surely it will "sharpen a dull blade."

These two things will wonderfully push smiling to show on your face. Because your mind and heart are clean from being discouraged, hatred, jealous. If smile and clean heart and mind is already on your body system, what else you doubt for?

Like a wise word said,"life is full of choice and you have options to choose."

So, do you still think that being happy is impossible?

Great Expectation

If we look back when we were younger, we have so many expectation in life. We put all of standards of life to be a perfect one, such as graduate from Master Degree at 23 yo, get married at 25 yo, got kids-the most are three starting at 27yo, got to be success in career at 35, travelling arround the world with family at 40, got rich at 45yo...enjoy the retire with full of money at 50yo. If we can fulfill all these standard that we really don't know who make it, are we sure that it will make us happy?

What if we cannot make it, should we keep reminding our mind that we are a failure or a bigger loser?

Nope! It will not guarantee you to be happy deep inside of your heart. Do you know why? Because your life is like a robot. You followed "somebody's rule" even for other people as the way of their life or as a standard of their life, that is not fun at all because you will be tired of chasing after something that you even not sure.

Let's enjoy our own life with great expectation. For instance: get married at 35yo, so what? We get more mature and understand how to react on facing problems. At 40 you haven't got any kids, so what? We can plan about having kids with no worries about age. God made your life and death, why do you trust people...just take it easy. At 43yo you still poor, so what? You are not missing anything, you just to deal with your life that God gives it to you. Just trying to get enough from your work first, then try more concern about saving little by little of your money and then without realized you will have saving account. At 55yo you haven't got rich to get your retirement, so what? Just be happy that in such age you still productive, it will help your brain keep exercising instead of being lazy and make your brain malfunction.

Now, to make all the happiness come to us while your age "is not" fit on "the standard" are stop counting the age and make a huge expectation of whatever you do. For example: If you don't have money because your job has less hour, just make an expectation by thinking, if I am working in this company little bit longer then I will get the opportunity to sharpen my skill and to get more experience in this field which is a benefit for me on my resume (like studying but get paid), or if you have different life like others, just keeping on your mind that God loves you and make you unique, so why you bothered? Just enjoying whatever God gives you. If you want to ask some more about what should you think about great expection because you missed the "people's standard", just give me a note, let share!

Sceptic?

Do we know that 10 from 11 people are skeptic?

What is the meaning of sceptic anyway? Okay, according to WIKIPEDIA the definition of sceptic is:

(1) an attitude of doubt or a disposition to incredulity either in general or toward a particular object;
(2) the doctrine that true knowledge or certainty in a particular area is impossible; or
(3) the method of suspended judgment, systematic doubt, or criticism that is characteristic of skeptics (Merriam–Webster).
(4) an inquiry,
(5) a method of obtaining knowledge through systematic doubt and continual testing,
(6) the arbitrariness, relativity, or subjectivity of moral values,
(7) the limitations of knowledge,
(8) a method of intellectual caution and suspended judgment.

For me, sceptic is trying to protect ourselves by judging negatively. We judged by the cover. Before we know what is going on, we just assumed that it is not good and not try to listen and or understand about that.

As the person who dealt with this matter every single time, the good tips for that is keep convincing them and ignore what they were thinking. Probably you will get the attitude from them, that is allright because our goal is deliver the message to them and let them decide it. And we still be a happy person without getting bothered by their attitude.

How about that?

Self centered...

Have you realized before that there is a tendencious to have a self centered at each of us? We like to be heard than hearing. That is why whenever we are being ignored of so many reasons we become very upset to that person.

Hmmmh...if we live in such "sensitive" feeling, I am very sure that all kind of disease will be happy to live in your body. Stress, and depresed or exccesive anger will be enjoyed visiting or may stay on your body. They will make the whole body systems a hard time to work normal. Then slowly but sure, they will invite Mr. Heart Attack!

Do you want to live like that for the entire life? By having problem breathing or thinking.

We believe that being so sensitive (selfish) will shorten your life. Let's digest about this.

Yes, and that is the truth, because if we are so sensitive about everything, we will upset very easily and make your heart is pumping hard because of anger. The heart is overworking, then what? Then get heart attack and so on, and so on.

We know exactly that is really hard not to sensitive or not to self centered, especially to the person who get used to be a centered attention in the family. The simple thing to do to get rid of this self centered is listening and closing the mouth tightly. Once, you can do it, it will exercise your patient and mind. The more you are doing that the more patient you will get. And then you will do it automatically with no burden anymore.

Do you want to try or share your experiment?